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Is Social Media Making Us Narcissistic?

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Social media tempts us to live in an attention seeking society and it seems that everyone is on board with it. The usage statistics of these cites are astounding. Every day, on average, 60 million photos are uploaded to Instagram. More than 20% of the world's population publishes details of their lives on Facebook, creating over 3.2 billion likes and comments every day.

To many, this might not come as a surprise. If you're reading this, you most likely came across it through social media. We've joined Snapchat, Twitter, LinkedIn , Facebook and all the rest and are fascinated, not looking away, even when we're having a face-to-face conversation. It's never been easier to see what your friends are up to, stay in contact with people, and, most noticeably, become a publicity-seeking narcissist. The constant desire to display our lives to the public, searching for this approval from others, has influenced a culture of vanity and self-endorsement.

But, is this really what our society has come to? For many, social networks are to blame for their narcissism, but others just need to find a balance before teetering on the edge.

I'd like to think that social media hasn't shaped an entirely egotistical existence. These platforms have opened up creative outlets, given a voice to the ignored, fostered relationships, assisted in a job searches, introduced us to new ideas and concepts, built time capsules for users, created a platform for documenting our life stories... The list could go on.

However, what happened that transformed our use of social media from casually checking our accounts into habitually surfing and refreshing for notifications? It's imperative to find a balance and prevent the dark side of social media from shadowing the positives. There are several good habits you can practice that will help you resist the urge from constantly checking your phone or computer:

1. Schedule "me" time. It's important to have time to yourself, but with hectic schedules, we're often moving from one thing to the next. Instead of using any free opportunity to check your social networks, do something that betters yourself first. Go for a walk, write a letter, read, call your grandparents, stretch, or simply sit quietly by yourself.

2. Get into the habit of not checking your phone for the first hour of your day. For many of us, it's first instinct to look at our notifications as soon as we get up. Instead, practice mindfulness and resist the urge. Start your day off on a positive note. Ensuring you begin your day quietly with minimal outside distractions can have a positive influence on the rest of your day.

3. Avoid distractions. When working or studying, exercise restraint from looking at your notifications. This can lead to unintentional time lost. If you have a strong desire to constantly check your social media, look at it on the hour as a reward for a distraction-free 60 minutes of work.

4. Don't compare yourself with others. You are simply viewing a certain aspect of someone's life, and everyone posts only their best photos or the exciting aspects of their lives. Be happy for their accomplishments, and understand that the people your viewing also face trials and tribulations.

5. Don't worry about being approved. Some people rely on social media for their self-confidence. Refuse to constantly check to see who's liked your post, waiting to feel validated. Feel happy and approving of yourself and don't give that control to others. Instill a healthy sense of esteem offline before logging on.

6. Give quality time to others first. The real relationships in your life are the most valuable. Establish a rule with your friends to collect everyone's phones when you're out to eat or instill in your children that phones at the dinner table are unacceptable. Giving attention to your friends and family when they're with you will be the memories you'll cherish in the future.

Only by being less self-obsessed and placing more value on personal relating can we impart these values to the next generation. A healthy balance of social media can be formed where the threat of becoming narcissistic is inexistent. Everything in moderation. And avoid announcing to social media your attempts to reduce your social media usage.

 

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Preserving Memories

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Have you ever looked back on a photograph and immediately felt the sense of nostalgia? As if looking at that image brought you back to that exact moment in time? Memories are an important part of all of our lives. However, capturing the experience while also being in the moment can be a challenging task.

We are constantly hearing the expression "live in the moment", but we often use this phrase as an excuse to disregard the future. Many justify their impulsive actions  with this in order to assume no responsibility for the future. However, on the contrary, living in the moment is an expression to remind us that life unfolds in the present and that we should undertake our thoughts in awareness - not a rationalization to living recklessly.  Ironically, living in the moment can help you preserve memories for the future. Often, we're so trapped in thoughts of the future or the past that we forget to experience, let alone enjoy, what's happening right now. Living in the moment is a paradox, because when we are focusing on the present, this will contribute to a happier future.

In Psychology Today's article, "The Art of Now" it writes:

"In her memoir Eat, Pray, LoveElizabeth Gilbert writes about a friend who, whenever she sees a beautiful place, exclaims in a near panic, 'It's so beautiful here! I want to come back here someday!' 'It takes all my persuasive powers,' writes Gilbert, 'to try to convince her that she is already here.'"

I'm sure we have all observed or personally experienced similar situations. If you have recently visited any tourist attraction, most individuals are affixed to their cell phones or cameras, neglecting to sit back and enjoy the view. However, it is difficult to not do so, especially when that photograph will be a cherished item many years from now.

Just as often as being too distracted by our cameras, I'm certain that we've also experienced the opposite, forgetting to document that special moment with a deceased loved one or of a once in a lifetime trip. Your children will never look as precious as they did in their matching holiday pajamas last Christmas. Your time in college flies by, and being able to look back on photographs of your first day of class or the time that maybe you shouldn't have done the keg stand at alumni weekend, will bring you back to the carefree memories of your youth. Will this be the last Mother's Day being able to celebrate your mother in person? Those moments are unrecoverable and the sentimentality of those photographs will hold true for many years to come.

Thus, the question arrises, how do we navigate the precarious balance between living in the moment and preserving the memory? Below are ten tips on preserving the memory while still being able to enjoy the occasion.

1. Don't stress about capturing the perfect photo. Take enough pictures to jog your memory. The meaning behind the photograph is more important then having an image worthy of National Geographic.

2. If you're at a wedding, take a few photographs of your own, but let the hired, professional photographer do his job to capture the details while you enjoy the day with friends and family.

3. Keep a journal. And write in it every night. In a few years, or even months, having that first person narrative of all the details will be just as special as a photograph.

4. Print, frame, and hang your photographs around your home. Too often we only store our photographs on our computers and forget about them. When we are able to view them everyday, the sentiment will bring happiness to our daily routines.

5. Use digital photo sharing websites like Flickr or Smugmug to safely store and share photographs with friends and family. Give Grandma and Grandpa the link to access these photos, keeping them updated on your child's big moments.

6. Similarly, make a Snapfish or Shutterfly book that collects the pictures from special event or vacation . These photo books make great gifts or coffee table books.

7. When experiencing a trip or event with others, have everyone share their photos in a  Facebook message. This way, if you forget your camera for an event or miss a special moment, you'll be able to look back on your friends' photos.

8. Make home videos. Gathering family and friends around the television to watch old home videos is something that the next generation will not have the privilege of doing. With video cameras becoming out of fashion, take the initiative to record video on your cell phone. Remember to frequently transfer the video to your computer as film requires a substantial amount of storage.

9. Take advantage of your cell phone to capture the memory, but ensure you're not getting distracted by texting or surfing the web.

10. At a special event, designate a friend who the event does not directly involve to take the photographs. This allows you to enjoy your child's baptism or birthday party and still have the photographs to reminisce at.

So next time you're cherishing a special moment, remember to document it while still living in the moment. As Ferris Bueller once said:

"Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in awhile, you could miss it."

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TSOLife: the Story You Never Knew

cover-photoAs TSOLife’s founder, I constantly get asked where the inspiration for the company came from. It is a question I have answered practically on a daily basis since September 2014 when the company was founded. We have produced videos, blogs, and marketing material that explain where this dream came from. However, one thing I rarely get asked is, “Ok, after you had the idea, then what?”.

That is a question that would cause any entrepreneur to pause. We get so caught up in the vision, working around the clock, that we forget to look back and appreciate all the small building blocks that had to come into place, making the company what is today. All the triumphs and failures, learning and unlearning, construct the stories behind TSO.

Truth be told, the company was built one Google search at a time. I began with simply an idea, no capital, no ability to build the product, no network of potential customers, and no clue or concept of how to market or make sales. I even had to search how to come up with a good company name.

We’ve come a long way since 2014, and are excited for what the future holds for TSOLife. In these years, we’ve been able to help our users preserve their legacies and share their life stories, enabling future generations to be able to hear their stories from the first perspective.

TSO has decided to share its journey through its own TSOLife account, revealing the stories from its commencement to the present. Every other week, we will be releasing a new behind the scenes story about the company, creating a timeline of our journey. Next time someone asks how the dream turned into a tangible business, we can refer them to our TSOLife account. Further, this entertaining series will serve as inspiration for other entrepreneurs and show our audience that they can do the same for their business, whether it be a fourth generation family business or a young start-up. To get these updates, follow us on Facebook!

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2016 in Retrospect

 

Brexit. Trump. The Olympics. These are the topics that dominated our conversations and social medias in 2016. Some of these stories have come to a close, while many are just beginning. Whether positive or negative, these events will shape our future generations.

2016 was a year against all odds, making the seemingly impossible happen. To put it into perspective, lets take a look at the probability of a few headlining events last year:

Leicester City winning the English Premier League: 5000 to 1

Donald Trump winning the U.S. presidential election: 25 to 1 when first announced

The Chicago Cubs winning the World Series: 30 to 1 at opening pre season

Brexit odds of leaving: 9 to 2 at peak

Last year the unimaginable occurred, and for many, that meant that 2016 was a year of new beginnings. In CNN's article, "Dear World, I wasn't all that bad. Signed, 2016," the significant strides the world has made in 2016 are monumental and noteworthy. The high school graduation rate is at its highest at 82.3%, and the unemployment rate is at its lowest in ten years. Your story of getting a new job after the historical economic recession is one of triumph and a story that not only your family members would love to hear but many in similar situations would be interested in listening to.

Our children will want to hear our perspective on the 2016 election. Future generations will wonder about where we were when we heard about the Orlando shootings. Our grandchildren will ask again and again to hear the story of when we were all gathered around the television, watching the final run that broke the curse as the Cubs won the World Series. Headlines that announced Fidel Castro's death are far more than newspaper stories to the Cuban immigrants who fled to the States in recent years. It is events like these that will dominate conversations at the family dinner table when we are visiting our grandchildren over the holidays.

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It's the little moments in life that they'll be curious about. Remember the summer trip to Europe you took with the family? How will you tell the story of the first time you saw the icons of Italy you've only read about or the breathtaking landscapes that dominated your travel books? Did you fall in love? Did you stand by your childhood best friend as she married her college sweetheart? Did you become an aunt or an uncle? Where were you when you heard the news that your oldest child was pregnant, making you a grandparent for the first time? What was it like when you watched your youngest walk across the graduation stage?

There is no denying that 2016 was a monumental year. But wasn't 2015? And 2000? And 1950? Finding out that your grandparents were influential leaders in JFK's presidential campaign in 1960 is story that will inspire you and help you better understand who your loved ones were in their youth. What was their stance on the Vietnam War?

In a few decades, 2016 will be looked back at with the same interest as the JFK presidency and the Vietnam War. There is a parallel to the events of 2016 and the historical events that occurred over 50 years ago. They are not only the events that dominate news headings but are also instrumental in our everyday lives, shaping us to be political activists or causing a close family member's life to drastically change. It is important to preserve these stories now while they're fresh in our minds, writing tomorrow's history today, because one day, future generations will ask what it was like to live in a year against all odds.

“It is important to preserve these stories now while they're fresh in our minds, writing tomorrow's history today, because one day, future generations will ask what it was like to live in a year against all odds.”

As the first month of 2017 comes to an end, we can only be optimistic about the future. Many will look back on 2016 negatively, but it is important to note the positive. Both the small moments and the historic events mold us individually and will shape our future generations.

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Ancestry and Genealogy Research Resources

Unlimited genealogy research resources exist in the world. Fortunately, many of these resources are now available online. These days anyone can take an interest in genealogy without having to spend hours digging through libraries and archives and paying for photocopies. Online resources have changed the genealogy research world; however, navigating all the online resources can be an adventure.

“How do I know where to start?”

“What websites have the information I am looking for?”

The research process involves experimenting with different resources. Not one website works for absolutely everyone, because the sites pull from varying databases and collections. The documents these resources offer add value to your life story and your family history. As mentioned in our previous blog post, these documents add a sense of legitimacy to your life story. Here are some popular places to start your ancestry research and find these supplementary documents:

FamilySearch

FamilySearch is free for anyone to use. It is one of the biggest genealogy websites in the world with billions of online resources and additional physical locations with volunteers to help you in your family history research. FamilySearch connects you to other online genealogy searches increasing the amount of information available to you.

Ancestry

Ancestry.com works like a search engine by digging through databases and collections to find documents. This method has allowed Ancestry to collect billions of records from census reports to images to articles to the most extensive collection of immigration records. These documents can allow you to map your family history throughout the years. Ancestry.com is a subscription service and can cost more than its competitors. Ancestry’s extensive databases and additional services, for some people, may make it worth the price.

MyHeritage

MyHeritage is a fantastic genealogy search engine allowing you to search through billions of documents from around the world. The site serves as a community that allows you to connect with genealogists and better understand your family history. MyHeritage emphasizes that family history is for the family. They offer ways to get everyone involved with genealogy by providing games for kids and an easy-to-share family tree. Unfortunately, MyHeritage does not have Native American resources available. The site is easy to navigate and offers great features, such as DNA testing, a family tree builder, and a custom chart designer. My Heritage is known as a reliable resource and an enjoyable experience for the whole family.

FindMyPast

FindMyPast is not as feature-rich as other sites, but it still serves as a valuable search engine with access to 1.6 billion records from English-speaking countries around the world. The site does offer an easy-to-use family tree builder. FindMypast does not offer much support besides research articles and the FAQ section.

Archives

Archives has access to 4.6 billion records of varying types, including immigration documents, yearbooks, adoption records, and newspapers dating back to the 1700s. Archives is a great resource for rare and interesting citations and records on your U.S. or U.K. roots. If you have roots in the U.S. from 1790 to 1930, you can find U.S. Census records for your family. However, if you have family outside of these countries, you will not be able to find data about them.

GenealogyBank

GenealogyBank is a search engine for finding newspaper articles focused in the United States dating back to the 1690s. You can find records such as obituaries, marriages, community events and arrests in newspapers, making them useful in learning about your ancestors and the environment they lived in. GenealogyBank also collects local histories, funeral sermons, biographies, directories and other books allowing you to find more than just the usual standard birth, marriage, or death certificate.

The Genealogical Research Library

The Genealogical Research Library has a more global focus compared to other sites. The database is organized by geographic location, so it is easy to begin researching the places important in your family’s history. It does not have extra features like many of the other sites offer. However, it does offer some unique resources such as antique maps, historical books, and a collection of family trees. It is not a comprehensive site, but it is a great starting place to begin your research.

DNA Testing Options

Many companies offer DNA testing services so that you can truly find your roots! Ancestry.com offers DNA testing for $99. You do not have to have an Ancestry subscription to purchase the DNA kit. MyHeritage is now offering DNA testing for $79. 23andMe offers two packages for their DNA testing services, one priced at $99 and the other priced at $199.

Honest Products Review provides a review of the 5 best DNA kits here. Take a look if you're exploring these options.

 

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There is an overwhelming amount of information on the internet. These databases are a great place to start. It can be difficult to know which services will be of the most value to you. Researching your family history will take some time, but the knowledge gained will be immensely rewarding.

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How Do I Make My Life Story Stand Out?

You spent hours. Many of these hours were spent wadding up papers or exercising the backspace on your keyboard. Despite these setbacks, the duration of these hours have led you to where you are now. You sit there staring at your creation. Your life story lies before you, in whichever form it may take. You exhale, and in the process, relax the furrowed lines of your forehead developed while deciding what events and memories were worthy of inclusion in this narrative. You inhale, empowered and exhilarated because of what you have just accomplished. It is not finished, of course. What life story ever is? But, you have found that stopping point where you can stop writing and move on to the next step, which is what exactly?

You wrote your life story. Now it is time for someone to read it. This reader may be a family member or someone you have never met. That decision is up to you.  It is one thing to write a story, but making a story interesting and engaging is a whole other ball game. How do you interest people in reading it? You may have heard the adage, “Build it and they will come.” As many of us learn in life, this saying does not always represent the truth. When it comes to writing and sharing your life story, more effort is involved than that of “Write it and they will come.” As a writer, you are tasked with keeping the reader interested while still staying true to yourself. So how, as a writer, do you make your life story stand out? Fortunately, there are many ways to create a dynamic and interesting life story without using excessively flowery writing or including exaggerated details.

THE NEXT STEP

Welcome to Step 2 of the writing process! It is time to add photos, audio files, videos, supporting documents, and a new perspective to bring your life story to a whole new level.

PHOTOS

Photos are a sure way to bring some excitement to your life story. Photos are useful in engaging those with short attention spans who are turned away by lengthy blocks of text. They are memorable and interactive.  People say a picture is worth a thousand words, however photos are even more powerful when combined with text than when they stand alone. When adding photos, it is important to document who was there and what their names are. Do not force future generations into playing the “Guess who is in this photo?” game, because you did not write a caption or label the photo. You can describe how happy you were on your wedding day. However, for a reader to feel that they were there, they need to see it. Add a photo to your story from your wedding day, so that they can see for themselves the contentment and excitement in your smile.

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AUDIO

Record yourself telling your story, and add the audio files to your story. We understand how much value the spoken word holds. When recording your audio, tell the story. Do not just read the script. Let those reading and listening hear the inflections and tone of your voice. Let them hear your voice crack with emotion or increase pitch with excitement. Adding emotion will bring your story to life. The experience of listening while reading a story is much more dynamic than that of just reading the text alone. Generations from now, your family members will be grateful that they can listen to the voice of their great-great-great grandmother or grandfather.

VIDEO

We live in the digital age, so people commonly film important moments in their life. It is easy to capture even the smallest moments because of how widespread smartphones are. If you have the videos, add them. Do it. Videos are just fun, and are a sure way to drive engagement. They have the ability to influence the reader’s mindset and emotions while they read the story leading to more interest and involvement. It is fulfilling to watch a video snippet, see a moment as it unfolds, and then read the story about the events leading up to that moment and those that followed afterward. The addition of videos creates a very holistic storytelling experience that inspires the writer and the readers.

DOCUMENTS

Many stories can be supported with documents above and beyond photos and videos. Newspaper articles, birth certificates, artwork, scans of handwritten letters, diplomas, and census information add legitimacy to your stories. You may have some of these items laying around. Many of these items, however, may not be as easy to find and can require some research. Fortunately, many resources exist to assist in the search. A few of the more popular options include Family Search, Ancestry, and My Heritage.

PERSPECTIVE

Show your life story from a different perspective to keep people interested. Fortunately, TSOLife offers multiple ways to make that happen. The map view allows your life to be viewed from a global perspective and highlights your footprint on the world. Readers will immediately be able to see where you have traveled. Readers can also view your story on a vertical or horizontal timeline which offers them a chronological walk through of your life. These different viewing options allows your life story to interest a diverse group of readers.

By utilizing what resources you already have available to you, you can truly make your life story stand out. No matter who is reading it, whether it be family members, friends, or people you have never met, they will enjoy the exciting storytelling experience you are offering them. Even if you are writing for yourself as a way to reflect on your life, combining your written words with other aspects facilitates a more investigative and holistic experience. Pages of lines of text, tedious and not visually appealing, are a poor representation of the beauty and struggle in life—in your life. You have so much more to offer, so let your story shine.

Next week look forward to more information about resources available to find public documents and genealogical records.

 

Check out how photos and an audio recording bring this story to life.

Find supporting documents at Family Search, Ancestry, and My Heritage

Check out these new perspectives on a life story: map view, vertical timeline, and horizontal timeline. To learn more, read How to Write a Good Life Story.

 

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The Story Of Life (TSOLife) is revolutionizing how we record stories and present our legacy to future generations. We empower you to document your own history through our TSOLife web platform, allowing you to be remembered the way you want to be remembered. On TSOLife’s beautifully simple and integrative platform, stories, videos, photos, and memories can be securely preserved. Start writing tomorrow’s history today.

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How to Write a Good Life Story

Writing your personal narrative can be an extremely rewarding experience. To read further about why your life story matters, read How Do I Make My Life Story Stand Out. Unfortunately, documenting these anecdotes can seem labor intensive and overwhelming. However, sitting down and writing your life story does not have to be a scary experience. Here are a few tips that make the process exciting and stress-free:

  1. Pause before you write.

Think about what you want to write before your hand ever touches the keyboard or picks up a pen. Taking a moment to write your story in your head first gives you a mental first draft and can lessen the chances of you experiencing writer’s block or freezing as soon as you pick up the pen.

  1. Start off by thinking big.

Throw away the misconception that writing your life story means you must work chronologically from birth to present. This method may work for many and will result in a finalized memoir document, but it is a tedious and tiresome process. You will probably find yourself writing about an event, because it is next in line chronologically not because it is critical to your life story. Start writing about the stories that are most important to you. Make the process easier on yourself by writing the stories that come naturally. Write about what memories excite you and what memories make you who you are. This advice comes from Sandi Newmark, journalist and TSOLife client. As a feature writer, Sandi possess experience and expertise on highlighting the important events. She advises writing your life story like a feature piece. Spotlight the important stories, and go back to fill in the minor events later.

  1. Sweat the small stuff.

Details really set great stories apart. Include specific information, such as names, dates, and addresses. Take a moment to set the scene. What was the weather like? What was everyone’s moods that day? What stands out about the moments where your story takes place? The right details allow you to share your story with your reader and move them to that moment and that place. Details allow for a more holistic and engaging reading experience. Focus on the pertinent details. Focus your writing on elaborating upon the life event you are describing; however, avoid embarking on unrelated tangents.

  1. Think about what you wouldn’t think to ask someone in person.

There are many important questions and topics that are important to a person’s life. Many of these topics, unfortunately, do not come up naturally in every day conversation. People converse all day every day, but how meaningful is what they are communicating? Write about what does not come up in the conversation in person. How did you first know you were in love? What is your biggest regret? What is your proudest moment?

  1. Add recommendations and advice.

Think about what retrospective knowledge you can pass down to others. Consider why you are writing this story and who will be reading it. Do you want your audience to take something specific away from it? When telling a travel story, where do you recommend someone to visit? When writing about the best date you had ever been on, what advice can you offer others for their next date? Documenting the story of your life gives you the opportunity to pass down knowledge to others, and it is important to take advantage of this opportunity.

  1. Show your personality!

This is your life story, so make sure it shows who you are. Feel free to include humor when appropriate. Throw in your favorite saying. Your writing style can be very poetic, or more conversational. Let your writing style reflect your character and personality.

  1. Find your inspiration.

Accept that writer’s block is normal. Sometimes we sit down to write, and our mind becomes as blank as the paper at which we are staring. Find your writing inspiration and look to it when you are stumped. Think about your favorite book, a memoir you have read, a conversation you had in the past, or the dream you had while sleeping last night. Reread what you have already written. Looking through old photographs can trigger many memories and many stories. (More about writing about photographs in our next blog post.) Take a moment to clear your mind and hit reset. Go for a walk or close your eyes for a few minutes. From where one draws inspiration is different for everyone.

  1. Be fearless.

Do not be afraid to look inside yourself. Write about all that is good as well as all that causes you pain. When you feel exposed and uncomfortable and find yourself outside your comfort zone is when true reflection, self-discovery, and brilliance takes hold.

“We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.” — Anaïs Nin

The writing process is different for everyone, and sooner or later you will find what works best for you. The tips above will send you in the right direction. Writing your life story can be an uplifting and wonderful experience, and is one that everyone should experience. Best of luck and happy writing!

Need inspiration? Check out these 100 Prompts for Writing About Yourself.

 

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The Story Of Life (TSOLife) is revolutionizing how we record stories and present our legacy to future generations. We empower you to document your own history through our TSOLife web platform, allowing you to be remembered the way you want to be remembered. On TSOLife’s beautifully simple and integrative platform, stories, videos, photos, and memories can be securely preserved. Start writing tomorrow’s history today.

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Why Does My Story Matter?

When considering whether or not to tell or write your life story, you may wonder why you should put in the effort. Documenting an entire life story can be a lot of work. It is a daunting task. You may wonder, “What is the point in all of this?” or “Why does my story matter?” For some people, the answers to these questions come easily. The reasons to tell their life story are personal and ingrained in who they are. For others, the answers might not be quite so obvious. Recording your life story seems like a lot of work, and you may worry that no one will appreciate the time and effort. Chances are that you may fall somewhere between the two extremes. You may feel that you should write about your life, but are not sure why you feel that way.

You are not alone. It is important to acknowledge that your story is part of a bigger picture. Storytelling has been a part of humanity since ancient times, and it provides an outlook into the future. Since man first walked on this Earth, stories have been told to relay values, life lessons, happiness… the list goes on. Your story has been shaped  by your motivations, emotions, imagination and your experiences, just like the stories that came before yours. Stories are what connect us to our humanity. Your story has been a part of you from your first breath, and we encourage you to share your experiences, so that it becomes part of our story, your family’s story - a life story.The most important reason your story matters is just that it matters to the people around you. Stories have a beginning, middle and an end, but the loved ones in your life have not spent all of the stages with you – we encourage you to share your story so that they can become a part of the stages they were not there for and more.

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David Sawyer, TSOLife CEO, encouraging WWII and Vietnam veterans to share their experiences.

 

We believe that people do truly care about their family history. People are drawn to stories that they can relate to or connect with – what better story to hear than those from the people you love or are related to? People care more now than they have in the past. We found the numbers to prove it. The Ancestry Global Family History Report interviewed over 6,000 people in the UK, USA, Australia, Canada, Sweden, and Germany. The interviews revealed that two thirds of people feel it has become more important than ever to know their family history. After reading or learning about family members, 55% of young people were inspired to talk with family members to learn more.

It is also important to note that stories are told for a reason. From cave drawings to the dinner table, stories have been told to entertain, to teach, to share, to inspire and to express. While the internet has certainly changed how we share and access information, the reasons for sharing this information remain the same. The passing of knowledge from generation to generation remains the foundation of family history. Learning about ancestry benefits personal growth and strengthens ties within families. The benefits are immense. Let’s look at the numbers:

  • 67% of people feel that knowing their family history has made them a wiser person.
  • 77% of people say it helped them understand who they are.
  • 66% of people say it has given them more pride in who they are.
  • 46% of people felt it had inspired them to be a better person.
  • 72% say it has helped them to be closer to older relatives.
  • 50% say it has helped them to be closer to younger relatives.

People pass on their values and lessons with storytelling. It shows where a person came from and where they are heading. These stories not only have the ability to give individuals insight into who they are and strengthen their self-identity, but they can also lead to stronger bonds and relationships with living relatives.

Basically, your story is meaningful. If just one person heard your story, you would share humanity, so share that with your loved ones. Leave your mark on the world by sharing what has shaped your life experience. The impact of sharing your words and experiences is immense. Your life story matters—to you and everyone around you.

We cannot think of a reason not to tell your life story, can you? For inspiration on making your story stand out, read How Do I Make my Life Story Stand Out? 

Want to learn more? Check out the Ancestry Global Family History Report.

 

 

ABOUT TSOLIFE

The Story Of Life (TSOLife) is revolutionizing how we record stories and present our legacy to future generations. We empower you to document your own history through our TSOLife web platform, allowing you to be remembered the way you want to be remembered. On TSOLife's beautifully simple and integrative platform, stories, videos, photos, and memories can be securely preserved. Start writing tomorrow’s history today.

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The Inspiration and Founding of TSOLife

 

 

TSOLife was incorporated in September 2014, but the concept was inspired many years before through the love and loss of my grandparents.

My grandfather was a remarkable man. He had the opportunity to become an Olympic athlete, was the recipient of the Civic Recognition Award, and was inducted into his high school’s Hall of Fame. His life is not only worth celebrating, but worth remembering. However, the chances of my grandchildren hearing these stories are slim. Verbal history dies after only two generations, and there is no Wikipedia page dedicated to his life and no published biography documenting his many achievements. There is only what we try to remember.

My grandmother passed away in 2014 around Thanksgiving. At her funeral, so many stories surfaced that I had never heard before. She had been one of the most important people in my life, and I found myself sitting there feeling like I never even knew who she really was. I struggled with the realization that there was so much I never got to know about her, and even more that I will soon forget. At some future time, all that my grandkids would be able to find about her would be her funeral service page where they could learn basic information. Her fingerprint on the world will never be deeper than her name, birth date and occupation. What was her personality like? What were her values? Even now, as I researched, all I could find about my grandmother was her birth certificate and death certificate, both full of information I already knew and lacking in emotional connection. I wanted to know how she met my grandfather and what high school was like for her. These discoveries, or lack thereof, truly magnified her loss for me.

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Me with my grandmother, Muriel, and my brother, John.

 

I founded TSOLife so that one day, no one will have to wonder what their grandparents were like and experience the loss that I felt. I have dedicated my life to solving this problem that haunts so many of us. As it currently stands, history is only recorded for the famous or infamous. The rest of us are left to be forgotten. TSOLife was created with the conviction that we are all worth remembering–that life should be celebrated, passed down, and remembered. History isn’t just for the famous or infamous anymore.

I sought to create this web platform that will allow our stories to transcend time, and this vision guides me every day. Each story is worth remembering, each person’s life is remarkable. TSOLife is my greatest accomplishment this far in life, and also my greatest regret because I didn’t make it soon enough for my grandparents. My grandparents’ stories are now in my hands to tell, and I will do what I can knowing that so much has already been lost.

-David Sawyer, CEO & Founder

 

ABOUT TSOLIFE

The Story Of Life (TSOLife) is revolutionizing how we record stories and present our legacy to future generations. We empower you to document your own history through our TSOLife web platform, allowing you to be remembered the way you want to be remembered. On TSOLife's beautifully simple and integrative platform, stories, videos, photos, and memories can be securely preserved. Start writing tomorrow’s history today.

Get Started  Try it FREE for 30 Days